Making Over your Mindset

Hey Love,
 

Makeover your Mindset is more than just a buzz phrase. It’s the key to unlocking all your potential happiness. Our mindset shapes our reality because we are manifesting exactly what we are thinking and believing about ourselves. If you need evidence of this, just look at your current circumstance; it's actually based on your thoughts and actions from the past day, week and/or month. 

Fortunately each new moment is a chance to change. Here are three simple ways to gain mastery over your mind:

• Set intentions. If you don’t know what you want, how will you know when you get it? While lack of clarity is a common challenge, getting clear on your goals creates a major empowerment shift. Mantra: I confidently decide what I wish to receive.

• Celebrate everything. Rather than glossing over your mini wins, call them out. An email reply, positive comment, completed to-do…each small achievement that supports your bigger goal deserves a victory dance. Mantra: So many good things are happening for me everyday. 

• Give what you want to get. We can be so focused on what we don’t have that we get stuck in a loop of lack. Instead, give out exactly what you’d like to receive. If you want more abundance, be more generous. If you want stronger friendships, be a more proactive, engaged friend. Mantra: I actively create my future by showing up as my best self.

We are constantly creating the world we experience. So spending more time in the feeling of what you want, will attract more of that feeling. You can learn all about this concept in my latest Open to Alchemy podcast episode {#74 Exploring the Law of Attraction}, which you can download here.

If you are ready to uplevel to a more confident and positive version of yourself, I have a wonderful Energy Boost session that is perfect for you. In just 60 minutes you can gain a deeper understanding of who you are, Identify & clear a negative belief that’s been keeping you stuck and leave feeling lighter, brighter and refreshed. You can find out more here. Any questions or feedback? Simply hit reply!

To your magical mind,
Lauren

Working through Self-Doubt

Hey Love,
 

Experiencing a bit of self-doubt? It can happen to anyone; that lack of confidence in who we are, in our abilities and capabilities. This negativity can often lead to a shame-spiral, that not-so-fun ride where we feel bad about feeling bad. What if rather than pushing so hard against the doubt, we accept that it’s a part of modern life and focus on learning how to move through it?

Here are four ways to navigate self-doubt:

• Reframe. Let’s call out doubt for what it truly is: You are not seeing yourself clearly right now. Because if you saw yourself the way others did, you would know how amazing you are. How bright your light is and how much you matter in the world. When your vision gets cloudy, ask a friend or loved one to remind you of who you really are.

• Redefine. Doubt can creep in when we don’t feel “successful”. So the more you can create a system and/or boundaries for what success looks like for you, the more in control and positive you will feel. Moving your body, getting enough sleep and water, reaching out to a friend - these all can contribute to your daily success quota.

• Reexamine. If you want to build your self-esteem, then try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Consider which areas you’ve been playing it safe and make a conscious effort to expand your capacity for trial and error. No matter the actual outcome, you’ll prove to yourself that you can do more than you’ve previously imagined.

• Recommit. You may always keep promises to others, but if you continue to flake on yourself, then you are setting the stage for self-doubt. Building internal integrity means you value and honor your commitment to yourself as much as to others. If we don’t prioritize our to-dos and hold ourselves accountable, how can we expect anyone else to do the same.

The more we can acknowledge and understand how we are feeling, the better equipped we are to meet any challenges with love and compassion. Doubt is simply showing us areas that need more attention in order to get back on track. 

If you are ready to uplevel to a more confident and positive version of yourself, I have a new freebie designed to help you do just that! My Future-You Visioning Guide is now available as a pdf, with an accompanying audio recording. This guide breaks it down into 3 easy-to-understand parts, so you can start making powerful changes asap. It's an incredible process to help you get clear on who you truly want to be and how you want to go through life. Once you start practicing, you will find it becomes increasingly easier to embody the energy of your ideal future self.

Any questions or feedback? Simply hit reply!

To debunking doubt,
Lauren

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How to Stop Selling Yourself Short

Hey Love,
 

Are you selling yourself short? While sales might not be a regular part of your life, at one point or another, the time comes to hype ourselves. Whether for a promotion at work, vying for a volunteer position or even claiming your role among friends, knowing what you are good at (and what you’re not) is as important for our personal awareness as it is for our relationships. 

So why is it so hard to own our strengths and feel comfortable pitching ourselves?

• We don’t think they/we are valuable. It’s very common for us to question our worth when it seems like only certain talents or skills are praised in today’s society. But regardless of what (and who) seems to be the most idolized at the moment, there are endless other abilities that are essential for all aspects of our lives. The things you are good at are meaningful to more people than you know.

• We don’t know what they are. If you grew up learning that bragging and being full of yourself were bad traits, then it’s quite possible you’ve been shutting down your skill-radar. Not wanting to call attention to your gifts undermines our ability to live authentically and feel good in our skin. It's time to recognize and celebrate your strengths and stop being worried about outshining others.

• We think everyone can do them. Because something comes easy to you, it's natural to assume it's easy for everyone else, but that’s simply not true. We were all blessed with unique strengths that we were meant to share with the world. So lean into those do-with-your-eyes closed talents and feel empowered knowing that you are the only one with your combination of talent, experience and POV.

If you are ready to uplevel to a more confident and positive version of yourself, I have a new freebie designed to help you do just that! My Future-You Visioning Guide is now available as a pdf, with an accompanying audio recording. This guide breaks it down into 3 easy-to-understand parts, so you can start making powerful changes asap. It's an incredible process to help you get clear on who you truly want to be and how you want to go through life. Once you start practicing, you will find it becomes increasingly easier to embody the energy of your ideal future self.

Any questions or feedback? Simply hit reply!

To owning our awesomeness,
Lauren

Who Do You Want To Be

Hey Love,
 

Have you ever felt like you aren't living up to your potential? Like the real you is hidden somewhere inside, but you just don't know how to find and set them free? If so, it's time to meet the next version of you. 

One of the most powerful ways to create change in your life is to utilize Future-You Visioning. This incredible process helps you get clear on who you want to be and how you truly want to live. Once you start practicing, you will find it becomes increasingly easier to embody the energy of your ideal future self. Here’s an exercise for you to try:

Start with one change you want. It creates positive reinforcement if you can frame it as something you want more of rather than less of. So you would choose being “more confident” as opposed to being “less afraid”. Some of the things I hear most frequently are wanting to be more active, more calm/peaceful, and more productive, but choose what's most resonant with you.

Imagine yourself already existing in this new mind, body and spirit space. As your future self (who already is more confident, for example), think about how you now feel. How would you think and act as this person? What do you know to be true? How would you handle a situation that you currently find challenging?

Create a new story for yourself. Grab a journal or record a voice memo using the following prompts:

• I am a person who feels…

• I am a person who exudes…

• I am a person who others see as someone who (or look to for)…

• I am a person who fills my day doing…

• I am a person who lives…

You can repeat this exercise daily or weekly as you start to notice major changes in how you think about yourself. Remember, when you change your thoughts, you will change your reality. Intention + Attention = Mindful Action.

If you'd like some additional guidance in doing this practice, I've recorded a sample session that you can access by clicking here.

Want help creating and stepping into your ideal self? Book a 60 minute Energy Boost Session! In our 1:1 session you can gain a deeper understanding of who you are, identify and clear a negative belief that’s been keeping you stuck and leave feeling lighter, brighter, refreshed! Energy Boost sessions include two weeks of post-session email/text support and perfect for those who are first timers, curious about this type of work and want to sample a variety of healing tools.

To becoming your future,
Lauren

Are You Keeping Yourself From Being Happy?

Hey Love,
 

Are you Keeping Yourself from being Fully Happy? Spoiler Alert: I have! But I didn't fully understand how or why...until now. While I’ve always considered myself a happy, positive person, I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was not fully aligning in my life. So this month I’ve spent time discovering some subconscious blocks that have been getting in the way of my full manifesting power. And tbh, my mind has been blown. 

Think this might ring true for you too? Here are some subtle signs to look out for:

• Worst Case Scenario Planning. If you are always preparing for bad news, tempering your expectations or staying on high alert as you wait for the problems to appear, then you are keeping yourself in a state of fear and stress. While it may seem like the “safe” thing to do, you are actually attracting more of that negative energy to you, while pushing away your current joy when nothing is actually wrong (yet).

• Trouble Envisioning the Future. If you are having a hard time mentally picturing or imagining something good that's coming up (like a vacation or promotion), then you are missing out on a key aspect of manifesting, which is to physically embody the goal feeling you want to have. When you can’t self-create the feeling of bliss or pride, it’s going to be infinitely harder to attract experiences in your life that give you that feeling.

• Negativity Bias. If you feel called to point out or focus on the bad, even when things are going great, then you are preventing yourself from feeling all the good you can. Whether it’s fueled by subconscious self-sabotage or a misguided impression of karmic balance, placing your attention on what’s wrong rather than what’s right, means you will always find what you are looking for.

I know these are not easy things to uncover or acknowledge about ourselves. But, if I can do it, so can you. And I’m here to guide you through it.

The shifts I've been experiencing this month are seriously epic. And so of course, I had to hop into a solocast asap to share all the insights with my most special pod-community! From the benefits of the Morning Pages practice to why I will no longer have a Plan B, this Open to Alchemy episode is next level, so be prepared for a major energy upgrade!

Ready for a reset and recharge? Book a 60 minute Energy Boost Session! In our 1:1 session you can gain a deeper understanding of who you are, identify and clear a negative belief that’s been keeping you stuck and leave feeling lighter, brighter, refreshed! Energy Boost sessions include two weeks of post-session email/text support and perfect for those who are first timers, curious about this type of work and want to sample a variety of healing tools.

To unblocking and realigning,
Lauren

When Things Feel Hard

Hey Love,
 

It’s mid-way through January, the time many of us are struggling to stick with with those New Year’s resolutions or make progress on desired goals. If you’ve already gone off-course, it can be really frustrating and you may be telling yourself (and others) how hard it is to achieve what you want.

PSA: As soon as that story of failure or struggle gets into our minds, it sticks, and starts a cycle of thought repetition and belief. If this sounds familiar and you are tired of feeling like everything is so hard, try this exercise on finding ease. I promise it’s more simple than you think 😉.

• Focus on what’s easy. Spend some time making a list of the things in your life that already feel easy. Make sure you include all areas such as work, home, relationships, personal growth, etc. If this in itself feels like a challenge, don’t fret. These are likely things you don’t even realize because they are so effortless, so dig a little if you are coming up empty. 

• Examine what’s hard. What feels especially hard to you right now? Why specifically are those things feeling so difficult? Is it because you haven’t done them before or had proven success? Are they mostly in a specific area of life or are there other common themes that you can find? What is the story you’ve told yourself (and believe) about what you can and can’t do?

• Move your mindset from expecting difficulty to allowing ease. Going back to your Easy List, consider the energy behind those things. Do they feel fun and enjoyable? Do they seem innate or intuitive, like just part of who you are? Were they once a challenge, but you committed to succeeding and now they come easily? Do you truly recognize and appreciate what’s easy or do you only feel something is valuable if it’s a struggle?

Like attracts like, so the more you focus on the idea of things being hard, the more resistance you will create. And conversely, the more you value and call in what’s easy, the easier things will become. I know it's a lot to consider, but changing your mindset on this one idea (what’s easy & what’s hard), can make a world of difference in how you experience so many aspects of your life.
 

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In this new year, I have a new offering to support your well-being - a 60 minute Energy Boost Session! In our 1:1 session you can gain a deeper understanding of who you are, identify and clear a negative belief that’s been keeping you stuck and leave feeling lighter, brighter, refreshed! Energy Boost sessions include two weeks of post-session email/text support and perfect for those who are first timers, curious about this type of work and want to sample a variety of healing tools.

To it being easy,
Lauren

Experiencing the New Year Blues?

Hey Love,
 

Has it been a weird start to the new year for you? If so, I’m right there with you! And I’m hearing from lots of others too, who are sharing they’re feeling extra emotional, underwhelmed and generally a bit off. 

Here are some reasons why you might be experiencing a New Year haze and what to do about it:

• Post-holiday Blues: After so much fun with family and/or time away from work, school and regular routines, it’s natural to have a period of readjustment back to the “real” world. If this sounds like you, try scrolling through your holiday photos, revisiting favorite family memories and journaling your gratitude for all you got to experience. While it won’t turn back time, it will help you extend the holiday glow as you ease into January.

• Empathic Overload: All that time with family can mean little or no time alone, which for empaths, can create extra challenges in keeping emotional boundaries strong. Maybe you are feeling heightened sensitivity to others emotions, extra tired or an inability to motivate or stay focused. BTW, this can happen from too much news consumption or doom-scrolling also. Getting some much needed quiet, alone time can help you find your balance and reclaim your own energetic space.

• Seasonal Affective Disorder: If you routinely feel down specifically at this darker, colder time of year, you might be experiencing SAD symptoms. This affects more people than realize it and shouldn’t be minimized or ignored! Try to find opportunities to still be active outdoors, especially if the sun is shining and make sure you talk to your healthcare provider. Here are some additional resources from the Cleveland Clinic to help understand and support SAD.

Tapping into what you are currently feeling (and potentialy why) is a huge step towards improving your mind, body and spirit connection. So even if you are frustated or disappointed by the start of the year, I hope you can give yourself the credit for this growth in self-awareness.

Want to improve your energy and outlook, so you can feel more positive, empowered and inspired? Click here to find out how!

In this new year, I have a new offering to support your well-being - a 60 minute Energy Boost Session. In our 1:1 session you can gain a deeper understanding of who you are, identify and clear a negative belief that’s been keeping you stuck and leave feeling lighter, brighter, refreshed! Energy Boost sessions include two weeks of post-session email/text support and perfect for those who are first timers, curious about this type of work and want to sample a variety of healing tools.

To the new version of you,
Lauren

Choosing a Word of the Year

Hey Love,
 

Happy New Year! Ready or not, 2023 is here, bringing a clean slate and a fresh opportunity to refocus, prioritize and set intentions. In previous years, I’ve gotten so excited by all the “new year new you” challenges, that I’ve signed up for way too many and not followed through. Sound familiar? 

This year I decided to scale back my January commitments, but one practice that I am doing is choosing a Word of the Year. This is a really fun and easy way to have an overall goal feeling or theme for the year. Our words become our manifestations, so let’s start taking ownership of what we want out of this life!

Now before you start feeling pressure about picking the perfect word, let me share some guidance to ease your mind. You can:

• Choose a word that you’ve been thinking about or saying a lot

• Pick the very first word that comes to mind

• Sit in meditation and wait for a word to “drop in”

• Start with a longer list of words and narrow down to one

There are endless choices and no rights or wrongs! Your word should simply be something that you aspire to, feels meaningful and resonates with you.

Want help finding your word and starting 2023 clear and focused? Click here for more info on my powerful Year-Ahead sessions, available for a limited time!

My word of the year is Embodiment. For me, this means going slower and allowing more time for play, exploration, integration and deeper knowledge. It also means even more awareness of my six senses and continued trust in my body's wisdom.

If this really lights you up, you can take it a step further and play with having a word of the quarter/season or even month. For more details on this practice, check out my recent Open to Alchemy podcast episode and don’t forget to send it to a friend who would love it and make a great accountability buddy!

To the power of our words,
Lauren

Reflection Rituals

Hey Love,
 

As this year comes to a wrap, it’s natural to start thinking about all that was…and wasn’t. Reflection is a beautiful and necessary practice to take an honest look at our lives, so we can not only acknowledge all the beauty we experienced, but also the times we struggled, yet still persevered. 

Here are a few ways to look back, so we can step forward with a clearer picture of our past and focus on our future. Take some quiet time and sit with your journal or notes app and consider the following:

• What are some of the major highlights from this past year? They could be family memories, work accomplishments or personal goals achieved. Why do these stand out the most to you? What are the feelings you associate with these times? What was involved in making these moments?

• What are some of the challenges you experienced? Think about the hard things life threw at you or maybe the ones you caused yourself and/or others. What did you learn about yourself from how you approached and navigated these times? What would you do differently next time around?

• What was on your goal list for 2022 that didn't come to fruition? There are a myriad of reasons things don’t happen, some of them material and some of them mindset. But ask yourself honestly, what got in your way, so you can see any underlying themes or trends occurring and make the necessary shifts.

It’s not always easy to take stock of our last year, especially if we feel disappointed in how it went. But it's important to allow ourselves to admit and move past any shortcomings and also recognize all the good we may have overlooked. In what is a hopefully very long life, not every year will be our best or brightest, but we can use those to learn about what we don’t want and get even clearer on how to do better.

And for those that did have a banner year, soak it all in. Relish the glow of contentment, pride, peace! You are entitled to ease and abundance and all the joy your heart can hold. Keep working hard and calling in all that you want to feel and experience.

Are you ready to start 2023 more clear, connected and empowered than ever before? Book a Personalized Year-Ahead Energy Reading! These 30 minute sessions give you incredible insights into what's in store for you in 2023.
 

Schedule a Personalized 2023 Energy Reading

Together we will explore year-long themes, areas of focus or specific actions and ideas. We may also uncover and clear some negative beliefs that are keeping you from achieving your goals. If you've never had an energy reading, these are so fun, clarifying and empowering. These sessions are only available for a limited time, so grab your appointment slot today!

To release and reflection,
Lauren

Why it's Hard to Get What you Want

Hey Love,
 

As we approach the final weeks of the year, many of us are in gift-giving mode, buying all the things for all the people. Creating our own holiday wish list of products or experiences may be easy, but when it comes to the bigger life things, like personal and professional goals, knowing and getting what we want can be challenging.

The Spice Girls have been asking us since the mid-90s...so why is still hard to tell what we really really want?

• Lack of clarity: If you aren’t sure what you want, it’s certainly going to make it harder to get it. Sounds obvious, right? But you’d be surprised at how often the absence of clear, defined goals or desires is at the root of our struggles. Sometimes we can't find clarity due to fear, but it also could be that we've decided we are "too busy" to carve out the necessary time. Ask yourself honestly why you can’t see your future clearly and take note of what's coming up for you.

• Lack of discipline: I’m not going to sugarcoat it - making new habits and breaking old habits is hard. You might have lots of false starts before something truly sticks. But that’s okay! Everytime you try again, you are building muscle memory for resilience, perseverance and adaptability. There are lots of hacks (try habit-stacking) and resources (check out Atomic Habits) that can help you get the lasting change you seek.

• Lack of self-worth: If you don’t believe in yourself, it's going to impact your ability to receive and achieve. Our thoughts are more powerful than we realize, working both in our favor and getting in our way. When you think about what you want, can you truly see yourself getting it or do you feel doubt? Adding in self-esteem practices can go a long way towards overcoming imposter syndrome and other confidence-crushing feelings.

We do so much for all the people in our lives. Aren’t you ready to finally make your dreams and desires a priority? One small, but impactful way to declare "2023 is MINE", is a Year-Ahead reading. These 30 minute sessions give you a personalized look at what's in store for you in 2023. Together we will explore year-long themes, areas of focus or specific actions and ideas. We may also uncover and clear some negative beliefs that are keeping you from achieving your goals. 

If you've never had an energy reading, these are so fun, clarifying and empowering. These sessions are only available for a limited time and also make a great holiday gift to yourself or loved ones, so grab your appointment slot today!

To getting what you want,
Lauren