Creating a Title + Identity
/Hey Love,
There is a funny thing that happens at some point during every Open to Alchemy podcast interview, when I ask the guest what title they’d like me to use in their introduction. It always turns into a longer conversation and I hear things like, “Well I’m trying out…” or “Wow, it could be so many things” or “This is such a hard question”.
You see, as entrepreneurs in the fields of creativity, coaching, energy and healing, titles are an ever-changing, sometimes elusive pursuit, where we try to summarize everything we’ve learned and practice in one marketable and understandable label.
It got me thinking about why our titles matter so much and why it’s sometimes challenging to either own or move away from an identity. We not only make assumptions about other people based on their titles, we also put a lot of power into them, even those self-imposed. Here’s some common identity-based issues and how to navigate through them:
Over-identification: We are what we…do? In today’s work obsessed culture, it’s easy to get swept up into viewing yourself as your job. It’s probably the question most of us are asked after our name! And of course, it is a huge part of how we spend our time and self-identify, but it’s not the whole of us. A big mistake at work doesn't mean you are a bad person and changing careers doesn’t mean you are a failure. It’s up to us to build our out-of-office resume, filled with hobbies and passions, rest and reflection so we feel more balanced and well-rounded.
Dream Job Disappointment: We were all raised with certain ideals of what we deem prestigious jobs. For some that may be doctor, lawyer, or professor; for others it’s coach, healer or entrepreneur. Achieving that dream job can feel like the ultimate prize from a culmination of lots of hard work and sacrifice. But sometimes the dream isn't what we thought it would be. Whether your expectations didn’t match up, the logistics proved unsustainable or you simply grew in another direction, giving yourself permission to pivot from your long-held desires is the ultimate expression of authenticity and self-compassion.
Imposter syndrome: For some of us, there's no amount of schooling, certifications or external validation that will allow complete ownership and acceptance of our abilities. This imposter syndrome can sneak it anytime, but especially if you are stretching yourself or putting forth something innovative. If you have a tendency to shrink away from a certain title, even one well-earned, consider what is holding you back from expressing your full potential. Remember, if you truly want to help others, you need to embody the fullness of your gifts so you can show up and attract like-hearted clients, partners and community.
Your work identity matters, but only as much as you want it to. If it’s something that inspires and excites you, then own it completely. And if it doesn’t feel aligned, try something new! Because if cauliflower can call itself pizza, then you can create any title you want!
Although I currently call myself an Empowerment & Energy coach, another title I’m stepping into is Energy Artist. Through my Energy Art Portraits, you get to experience a deeper understanding of who you are and tangilbly see your energy field in a way that you may have never had access to before. These one-of-a-kind, custom painting and self-discovery sessions can help you get to know, love and trust yourself on a whole new level.
Each one is truly so beautiful and powerful. And I just love being able to create & share these with people, so visit OpentoAlchemy.com for all the details on how to order one. Also, if you haven't listened to the Open to Alchemy podcast, come check it out! From a Wellness Astrologer to Sewing Fairy Godmother and everything in-between, you will find something to make you smile, think, laugh and feel inspired.
To creating a new identity,
Lauren