When it's Okay to Surrender

Hey Love,

The word surrender has a range of connotations. Most people focus on its definition portraying weakness; to give up or quit when you just can’t fight the battle anymore. But, it can also mean to accept or allow; to let go of resistance in favor of going with the flow.

It’s this idea of acceptance in the present moment that I’ve been exploring lately. At times it seems completely at odds with our hyper-achieving, goal-setting culture. The question that keeps rolling around my mind is, how do you balance the need to achieve with the ease of allowing? Here’s what I’m leaning into when it comes to striving versus surrender:

It all comes back to gratitude. No matter what new self-help concept is going viral, it’s guaranteed there is a gratitude element included. Being aware and appreciative of what we have, is a timeless trick to immediately feeling like we have more. And maybe that helps us realize we already have everything we need.

Perfection only exists in the present moment. The more time we spend looking backward, the more inclined we are to feel dissatisfied and want a do-over. The more time we spend looking forward, the more likely we are to create anxiety and unrealistic expectations. In the practice of coming into presence, we can enjoy peace, acceptance and even deep satisfaction with our status-quo.

Goals are road maps, not final destinations. Having goals is great. They can keep you grounded, focused, moving on the path of your best-self vision. But they aren't the only (or best) measure of your current success or future potential. In all our goal-getting, it’s just as important to know when to take a break, pivot, or even throw out the rulebook from time-to-time.

When you increase your ability to surrender, you will be able to see each new experience for what it truly is: a gift, lesson, reminder, contrast, opportunity. I know it won’t be an immediate change, but I’m committing to this new practice: being at peace exactly where I am. And I hope you’ll join me!

If you are looking to soften into your existing world, I’d love to help! Check out my 1:1 sessions to explore more of what's possible for you. After just 90 minutes you'll feel more inspired, empowered and ready to step into your future vision. Reach out for a free connection call to get more information.

To finding surrender,
Lauren